Responsibility
Naming choices, accepting impact, and participating in repair without excuses or blame.
Private by design
$19 one-time · one private assessment · about 8 minutes
Look at the pattern.
Not just the apology.
Before you decide whether to stay, leave, or give it more time, see what your partner’s behavior is actually telling you.
Turn confusion into observable evidence
Separate repair from damage control
Get a private, printable summary
Private self-reflection
Stop second-guessing every conversation.
$19one-time payment
- 25 behavior-based reflection questions
- Five scored results with strongest and weakest signals
- Tailored conversation prompts, next steps, and resources
- Revisit your assessment and download your results
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What you’ll see
Five signals.
One clearer picture.
An apology can be sincere. It still cannot rebuild trust by itself. This check helps you examine the behaviors that make repair visible over time.
Truth & transparency
Clear answers, voluntary correction, and mutually agreed transparency—not reassurance alone.
Empathy
Listening, recognizing impact, and responding with care when the conversation is uncomfortable.
Boundaries & safety
Reducing secrecy and ambiguity while protecting each person’s autonomy and safety.
Consistency
Alignment between words, commitments, and ordinary behavior across time.
You don’t have to decide today
But you deserve to see the pattern clearly.
Research-informed education
Several lenses. No borrowed verdict.
This independent tool combines observable accountability, emotional responsiveness, clear boundaries, and behavior sustained over time. Its educational influences include affair-recovery and attachment work associated with John and Julie Gottman, Sue Johnson, Shirley P. Glass, Janis Abrahms Spring, and Gordon, Baucom, and Snyder.
Shirley Glass’s work informs the distinction between ordinary privacy and emotionally significant secrecy. All questions and interpretations here are independently written. This tool is not affiliated with or endorsed by these authors, their estates, institutes, or publishers.
Further reading: Glass, S. P., with Staeheli, J. C. (2003). Not “Just Friends”: Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity. Free Press.